Yearly Archives: 2010

Outcomes Follow Each Decision We Make

December 28, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Pulling the Plug on Procrastination

Sometimes in life, we make choices that require a certain amount of sacrifices. At times like these, it can feel as if we must force ourselves to do things we don’t want to do. Consequences follow each decision and the choices we refuse to make as well. We may dislike our job but enjoy the luxury of the income it provides, for example. One day we decide that it is time to move forward and look for other opportunities. Then our thinking takes on a new set of circumstances. At times like these; the “what if” thinking can drive us to do what we shouldn’t and back down from the challenges of transformation. The thought of living in a smaller apartment or driving a used vehicle rather than a new one can cause us to reconsider. In the end, we know that we will be happier in another job, even a lower paying one. However, the concept of losing the conveniences we may have become accustomed to can wear on us.

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Your Past is a Mere Reflection

December 23, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Manifesting Your Best

As we move forward to the year 2011, we cannot help but look to the previous year. Our failures and triumphs are both extremely relevant to our learning and growth. During the transition from one year to the following, it is important to remain in the moment as frequently as possible. Imagining too far ahead in search of prospective successes and hopes can set us back. While the completed year is a portion of us, it is a mere reflection of where we have been. Experiment with thinking of the past as if you are looking into a rear-view mirror. You can recognize where you were, but if you focus too hard on that picture, you may very well lose sight of the present. From the family at This Should Help we wish you a happy and prosperous New Year!

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This Should Help Receives Content Site of the Year Award!

December 22, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Give & Get

Yesterday I received an email of all emails that really made my day. Vie’s Inn of Wonders’ Awards bestowed This Should Help with their Content Site of the Year Award! There is no prize money, and it is a simple graphic, but I display it with pride. Maintaining a website takes hard work and dedication. Writing for a blog, as many of you know are both rewarding and time consuming. This small recognition of my time and effort truly finishes the year 2010 with a BANG! We won Tony’s Gold award earlier in the year, making us eligible for the year-end award. The award program is longstanding and the criteria are specific…they do not give the award out freely, as it must be earned. Unlike many programs that are looking for great design and navigation, Tony looks for valuable content. This makes the award even more appealing to apply for and win!

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Change Begins with Unlearning Old Habits

November 30, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Learning Experiences

We have all heard the expression that when we are young our minds are like a sponge. As children, we learned nearly anything simply by watching other people perform tasks. Ideas that adults offered us seemed almost immediately absorbed by our youthful brains. We took in massive amounts of data as we quickly developed motor skills and explored our universe! We learned at such a rapid rate that we took in more than we should have, and this set us up for later in life, to have to change. Many things we learned are undesirable, like the use of manipulating other people and negative thinking. I have noticed though that when we are older and experienced that learning can take on a completely new meaning. When it comes to changing and self-help, many things simply need to be unlearned! In fact, we may have difficulty changing our thinking and emotional states until we do.

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Inner Dialogue Robs You of Your Power

November 29, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Communication

Our mind is like a word processor and a calculator combined. We use words, numbers and pictures to conclude various things and arrive at discernment. Words are what we mainly use while forming pictures (visualizing). Numbers are what we use to estimate distance, etc. clearly. What happens when we try to determine how another person will react to something we say or do? We begin to try to utilize words to calculate an outcome, and it causes conflict. The conflict begins because we are striving to use our word processor to calculate. Anytime you are imagining what another person will do, say or even will not do or say, you are calculating with the use of words. This is when inner dialogue has you in its grip!

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The Ego – Overcoming Past Traumas

November 29, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Give & Get

I read yet another article today concerning the importance of eliminating our ego. This issue has always confused me because it is loaded with contradictions. Just as there are, many gurus and self-helpers out there with negative contradictions concerning the word should. Seriously, life coaches and gurus are making money by selling us their ideas on what we should do to improve our lives. In the next breath, they state that the word should is damaging to us. The same applies to the ego, just as many are telling us to chip away at it one portion at a time, and eliminate it. In the next breath, they sell us on how to improve our self-respect, self-esteem, and self-worth. They even go as far as telling us how important money is and deliver methods of how to attract it!

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Inner Dialogue Holds Back the Authentic Self

November 28, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Communication

Friends and relatives have asked me what I did to change my life and how I managed to become so happy. This question is hard to answer, as there is no one thing I have done. Today I found what I think may have made the most significant difference. I stopped inner dialoguing. Inner dialogue affects us more than we may realize. It triggers fear and anxiety as we attempt to control outcomes beforehand. The subject is complex and to explain it all to you would take an entire book. I mean why we do it, and how we develop the habit of this processing varies. In some ways, it is something we do to avoid confrontations, and develop lies or excuses that we can tell others. On the other hand, we may just be asking questions while trying to find answers. The problem is that when we ask ourselves questions, many times we perceive or even pretend (act) as if someone else is doing the asking.

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Do Affirmations and Gratitude Journals Work?

November 27, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Thought & Emotions

Some people have stated that affirmations do not actually work or at least make a substantial difference. They say that telling ourselves positive things without a firm belief in what we are saying is ineffective. Many believe that writing affirmations and posting them around your home or office increases changes in your belief systems. Some have determined that with time the mind will take on the belief and the self-worth of the individual raises. People begin to believe what they repeat to themselves and this increases the chances of a better quality of life. Writing things down have changed lives as well, because if we can see what we say the mind changes quicker. With the prolonged use of self-help methods, gradual change in attitude, outlook and finally, perception occurs.

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Self-Help Requires a Hunger for Change

November 27, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Learning Experiences

What does it take to become happy and experience harmony in your life, and what self-help method works best? You must develop an enthusiasm for learning. You are a complex person with many things going on in your life. Unless you develop a desire to learn, it is unlikely that you can change your life circumstances. Stepping out of your comfort zone requires learning new things and new activities. Changing your perception requires opening your mind and examining your beliefs. Without a hunger for change, self-help methods cannot hold your attention. Many people have utilized proven methods without success. Every method or big idea offered has smaller ideas backing it – the Law of Attraction, for example.

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Make Competence Your Goal and Experience Success

November 20, 2010 | by Sandra
Posted in Manifesting Your Best

Many self-helpers suggest that confidence is all that is required to become successful. This statement is like saying that all you need to do is think positive. Confidence as with many issues has two sides, much like positive thinking. Those who present these ideas also tell us we must take action, step outside our comfort zones and face our fears! This advice toward productivity is sound and useful. However, understand that increasing your confidence is not the actual goal. The goal is to become competent in different areas of your life. We learn confidence when we learn what not to do, but to become competent we must learn what to do. This is where examining your negative thinking and what you don’t like or want, comes into play. We can succeed and do anything we desire, but confidence will only take us so far.

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