We all grow up with control in our lives and the problems that we face with regard to authority vary. Many of us grow up learning to respect authority in a way that causes passive conduct. Society taught us to respect our elders and that talking back is wrong. Misconception can develop, leading us to believe that our teachers, elders and even older siblings have rights that we do not. Many have felt as if being quiet and keeping thoughts to ourselves was the norm. We think that speaking up is indeed wrong or even punishable. Is it any wonder that we resent being controlled and build a strong loathing toward authority figures? Later in life, we deal ineffectively with authority because of fear and spite. Unless we build a personal power, life is apt to throw us from bad to worse and the anger mounts, causing pain that is hard to overcome.
Are you spending your time aiming to satisfy your needs or those of other people? Do you know people who regardless of what you do for them are never pleased? We cannot be satisfied and that is the good news! If satisfaction were likely, we would all be smug in our personal lives; we would be unable to succeed. Just as stress is, vital, displeasure is necessary to prompt us to act. Why are so many people unhappy in their jobs and relationships that they seem to be on an emotional roller coaster? Many people are searching for satisfaction rather than happiness. A person who hopes for other people to satisfy them cannot be happy. However, someone who is actively searching for joy can and does find it. There is a fine line between happiness and discontent.
The great self-helpers tell us that we must practice gratitude. Without an obliged attitude, we are apt to suffer low self-esteem and self-worth. What they fail to report is that we are born with innate appreciation. The moment we draw our first breath; we are grateful for it and appreciate our capacity to breathe. Fully unaware of manners and people pleasing skills we show appreciation daily. As baby nurses at the mother’s breast, both recognize breast appreciation. When a toddler receives something, he or she wants a smile forms that declares that they feel appreciation. As we age and our parents begin to feel that we should be, more grateful they begin teaching manners. They enforce the rules of please; thank you and you are welcome. These people pleasing skills can rob us of our sincere appreciation! As well as set our expectations in line with failure.
Having a philosophy is something that was missing in my life, before I began my journey of self-help. I went through life doing what I knew how to do, and that was to survive. As I began learning and really making contact with what is important to me, I began to develop ideas. Before this time, I must have had a general idea concerning what I believed. As time goes by, I add to my belief system, and certain beliefs alter, as I grow. I asked myself today what is at the core of my world-view, what is the big idea? It amazes me when I think of how life was for me before I began to understand myself. I actually was oblivious as to what I understood and believed. As I continue learning, my mind and heart expand my philosophy.
Hello everyone, I have returned from my vacation, and I am prepared to blog. I had a wonderful time traveling with family. We journeyed to California where we visited my Great Aunt and Uncle. They are in their nineties, and willing to share their wisdom! My Uncle Glen shared stories and recited cowboy poems. It amazes me when I listen to some of the stories he tells about living in the 30’s and 40’s and how he earned $3.00 a week on his first job as a cowboy. He relates how he worked from “you can” until “you cannot” each day (“that is where you work as soon as you can see until you can’t”). Glen says kids today (I am sure he means from the ages of 25 to 70) handle life by saying “Oh well!”