Tweet A short time ago, I wrote an article about the difference between goals and intentions. Goals add a value to our lives and motivate us to improve our overall situations. Intentions, on the other hand, enable us to take vital action toward what we hope to accomplish. Too frequently, goals are set in place
Tweet Do you find yourself disturbed by what other people think, say or do? Are you exasperated by the way that people seem to treat you? Does it seem like your life is outside of your control, more often than you would like? It could be that you suffer from the need to control or
Tweet I have known several Millionaires in my time, and they had various traits in common. Now you could assume that I am going to relate to you that they were positive thinkers and in some ways, they were. However, these men had more than that going for them. Some were educated and others had
Tweet The experts tell us that positive thinking is required if we want to succeed in any task. They also imply that negative thinking brings adversity into our lives. Injuries in the workplace occur most to those who dislike their jobs. These people are also inclined to become sick more often than their co-workers do.
The other day my daughter, Kelly, was involved in a power struggle with her two-year old, Grace. Kelly was trying to tie Grace’s shoes, so she could go outside and play. Grace was uninterested in having her shoes tied. Grace’s focus was on what she wanted to do. Kelly related to her, “You can’t go out and play until your shoes are tied.” This comment only seemed to enhance the struggle, as Grace seemed to hear only the first portion of the statement. Following her original statement with, “You can go out as soon as your shoes are tied.” settled the controversy. Again, it was, as if she only heard the first part of what Kelly said.
Lifestyle changes can have a lasting effect on us, and change is one of the things we seem to encounter the most. The initial change we experience is our birth into this universe and from there we go through various cycles. As children, we seem to flourish on change as we investigate our world. As we age and become settled down emotionally, we tend to desire details to remain the same. We discover a comfort zone that is loaded with voids, and we set out to determine what is missing in our lives. With each change, we learn and grow, discovering who we are and what we need. We bring about some changes, and some seem to come our way without our agreement. The latter changes we conceive are the most discouraging, but the lifestyle change itself is what affects us.
I have done a lot of thinking lately on the difference between goals and intentions. Intentions are something that we share with other people, often involving them, through our thoughts. Goals are something that we plan and execute to carry out our intentions. When we intend to visit someone, and we make plans with the person, it sets expectations in play. The trouble with goals with no intention (without a real desire) is that procrastination grabs us, until we feel like taking action. Frequently, we delay making plans to follow through until we feel forced by outside circumstances. On the other hand, we may simply change our mind and let ourselves and other people down, causing guilt or conflict.
The brain adapts to change, and although it resists, our mind finally gets the message. One reason that we fight change is because it takes some time for our mind to accept the idea. We do things automatic once our mind is in-tune with what we want. With some conscious effort on our part, we can carry out many things without much thought. This is what I call behavioral acting – when we are in the habit of performing certain tasks. While learning a new task or bringing about a change, we must pay close attention to our reasoning. Doing something that is unfamiliar to us requires acting behavior.
We have all heard that everyone deals with grief in their own way, and that we must do it. This emotion is usually associated with a loss of someone we love, but it is more evasive than that. Grief is something we experience even when we perceive an upcoming loss of a marriage, job or money, for example. Many children grieve during and after a divorce and their behavior reflect the emotion. Grief can make us say and do things that are out of character for us. It can cause us to withdraw from loved ones or supporters and depression or fear feels like the norm. Worry is one of the feelings that lead to grief and if left unchecked and exaggerated can leave us feeling lost and alone.
There are many changes happening in the world today. Each day technology moves forward in an attempt to improve the quality of life or even to undo previous damage to the planet. It seems that we spend the majority of our time trying to fix what is wrong in the world, rather than seeing what is right. With our fixation on correcting or regaining lost control, our outlook takes on a distortion. It is all too easy to think that everything is important in your life and lose sight of what really matters to you. The only thing that really changes in this world is your mind, and this is the key to improvement. As your outlook changes so, does your inner guidance and with this change your values become clear.