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Are You Searching for Happiness or Satisfaction?

October 26, 2010

TreeAre you spending your time aiming to satisfy your needs or those of other people? Do you know people who regardless of what you do for them are never pleased? We cannot be satisfied and that is the good news! If satisfaction were likely, we would all be smug in our personal lives; we would be unable to succeed. Just as stress is, vital, displeasure is necessary to prompt us to act. Why are so many people unhappy in their jobs and relationships that they seem to be on an emotional roller coaster? Many people are searching for satisfaction rather than happiness. A person who hopes for other people to satisfy them cannot be happy. However, someone who is actively searching for joy can and does find it. There is a fine line between happiness and discontent.

You can be happy even though you may be dissatisfied. For example, you may have planned an outdoor event and the day of your event, it rains. You can choose to be happy and act as a result, or you can become bitter by the common occurrence. If you wanted to picnic for the satisfaction, you will most likely begin to lament about all that is wrong with the day. You will think THAT everything surrounding the event is important. However, if you are looking forward to a good time, you will proceed to think about everything THAT is important. Happiness is related to satisfaction, but not reliant on it. Disappointment and discouragement do not get a happy person down. Happy people focus on what they want and go after it. On the other hand, someone searching for satisfaction spends their time thinking about what he or she dislike and what they want to avoid.

Someone who is always seeking satisfaction is on a road of perfection. This path has many traps along the way. One pitfall is instant relief, which is brief and easily forgotten. A common sign of someone who wants other people to satisfy them is that they are critical of themselves and others. Nothing is flawless enough and they can lack respect for others. These things are what cause them to be scheming and ache from self-pity. Therefore, you see it is not that these people suffer from chronic sadness. Because they are seeking a level of perfection that is unattainable, they become depressed and suppress helpful feelings. Their standards are set in stone, and they lack the desire to conquer the negativity that advances failure. Someone who is toiling for pleasure, fear someone turning him or her down.

I used to buy into the notion that happiness and satisfaction went hand-in-hand and that joy comes from being satisfied. However, I am starting to deduce that satisfaction and dissatisfaction are what really go with each other. We must become displeased at times, and this is good for the soul. Working toward satisfying ourselves is what helps us mature and live life to the fullest. Spending our time aiming to satisfy other people, is when problems begin. Going along to get along is not always the best policy, even though at times it is necessary. People, who strive for perfection and satisfaction from other people, get upset when you do not say what they want to hear. They are on guard, freely offended; they often pout or give you the silent treatment, and have many pet peeves. Are you seeking happiness or relief? Keep in mind that you cannot be satisfied so it is a hopeless goal.

If this article describes you, there are various things you can do. You can alter the way you feel concerning yourself and other people.

  • Learn about forgiveness and practice it.
  • Let go of what you conceive other people should or shouldn’t do.
  • Allow your emotions to surface.
  • Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly.
  • Pay attention to your thinking and recognize when you are faultfinding.
  • Recognize that you can be delighted even when life throws you a curve ball.
  • Understand that adversity is an avenue of growth.
  • Tell yourself and other people what you like, rather than what you don’t like.
  • Determine which of your convictions stand in your way of progress.
  • Don’t be afraid to make a mistake or express that you don’t know.
  • Strive for excellence instead of perfection.
  • Decide on a diversion that is nourishing to your soul.
  • Most importantly, when you invoke “why questions”: search to discern and gain an understanding instead of an explanation.

Sandra Hendricks, EzineArticles.com Expert AuthorLife is a journey with perfection built in, and if you strive for excellence instead of perfection, you will succeed. We have all decided or overheard a person assume they would be happy when the condition changed. “I will be happy when I am finished with school.” “I will be happy when I get that promotion.” “I will be happy when I have the mortgage paid off.” Try the following statement as a fill in. “I will be satisfied when my situation changes.” (Add your own phase). You cannot be satisfied so why not be happy now?

  

3 Comments to “Are You Searching for Happiness or Satisfaction?”

  1. Nabanita says:

    Hi Sandra !

    wonderful and rejuevinating article. :)

    • Sandra says:

      Hi Nabanita,

      It is wonderful to see you here. I welcome your comments on Give & Get anytime! Thank you for the comment on Facebook :)

  2. Sandra

    I just loved your list especially about asking why in order to gain understanding rather than an explanation.

    I hadn’t asked my self the question about happiness and satisfaction and it has been interesting to think about it. Satisfaction is a great feeling but you are perfectly right I can be happy when I am working on something and satisfied when the job is finished and done well. I don’t need to finish the job to be happy.

    Nice new awareness – Thank you Sandra

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