Category Archives: The Word “Should”

Our mind is full of ideas and ideals, which we have gathered from experiences, authority figures, and even the media. The influence that other people can have on us is astonishing. Our parents teach us their values, and even though we may disagree, we adopt them on some level. Looking back at our childhood, we may decide to create our own methods and values. Belief systems intertwine with the values of the world surrounding us in such a way our mind spirals. This can place us in a constant state of confusion as to what we should do. Somehow, we feel that we should do the thing that is right according to the values of our parents, church, or the media. On the other hand, we struggle with what we want and this causes an inner conflict. If what we want conflicts with a value we adopted but opposes a value we developed, I do, but I don’t thinking begins.

While writing the series Helping People to Help Themselves I discovered more concerning the word “should”. When we tell people, what we believe he or she should do it demeans them. In other words, it does not empower them. Even when they ask us, what we would do or what we suppose they should do, it indicates that they are feeling helpless. This is the reason that when we think about what we should do, we feel unsupported. We can actually get a feeling that we are without value. Telling ourselves consciously what we should do is an unworthy way to validate ourselves. However, when we think that we should do something it is usually a competent thing. When you think of something you should do, it normally directs at what you want to achieve. We counsel ourselves with the word should and this can validate us; we have an inner guidance.

Some people are still convinced that the words: should, must, have to, and need to, cause us problems. I think these words are ordinary words. Our reaction to them depends on our frame of mind. Our outlook can be that the word “should” is a word that motives us to feel lazy, guilty or damned. Alternatively, we can recognize the word as one that helps us to achieve what we desire to accomplish and allow it to help us. If we want something, we automatically detect (think) that we should do something; the word prompts us to take action.

In the book, “The Secret” the Authors tell us a lot about what they call the “Law of Attraction”. The law of attraction or whatever you want to call it does work, but only if you take action. They tell us in the book that action may be required and that the way will reveal itself. So how do we take advantage of their idea?

This concept can work for you. However, it is necessary to take prompt action, if you want to understand the benefits that your subconscious mind offers. For optimal results while using this concept, when you detect something that you “should” do – a simple nudge from your subconscious mind – follow through (take action) as soon as possible. This will create a block of time to accomplish the next guidance and ideas that your subconscious sends forth.

“What should I do?” is the one query that without fail gets a reply. You are probably aware of the way the word “should,” can affect you. It hints that you must to do something, it sets up responsibility, and the word “should,” can leave you feeling notably guilty. It is natural to resist a person who tells us what we “should” do, and, when we think we “should” do something, this resistance can be equally severe.

The five senses stimulate our thinking, and bring forth the word “should”. For example , you open a container from the refrigerator and the smell prompts you to think, I “should” throw this away. You may feel hot, and the sweat running down your forehead could cause you to think, I “should” turn on the air conditioning before I roast. Suppose you see that your car is dirty, and think to yourself, I “should” wash the car, sometime soon.

Using the concept here, you could become gradually self-assured, and shift your outlook on life. The more you do what you “should,” the more confident, motivated, and secure you will become. By using direction from the subconscious mind you will accomplish with less time. In addition, you may discover skills that went unnoticed before. You may begin to believe that you can do anything that you set your mind on.