Have you ever noted the way people avoid answering questions? It seems to me that asking questions may have gone by the wayside partly because we cannot get a direct answer, so why bother. How often do you ask a question that needs simply a yes or no response, only to hear excuses? It seems that if someone cannot commit to a response that he or she somehow feels the need to justify the answer in advance. Sometimes the person thinks they have replied to the question, even though they evaded it. Inquiries are such a huge part of life. If we are in the habit of evading them with others, we may avoid solving helpful questions that we ask of ourselves.
I remember as a youngster, asking endless questions, of myself and other people. This is the way we explore life and gain an understanding about the world in which we live. I stopped asking questions as I grew into teen years for various reasons. I received answers that were vague, at best, or cliché. Often my mother told me why I was not permitted do something when a simple answer would have been adequate. In a sense, I began to shy away from asking questions because I failed to get a straight answer. I think that the authority figures in my life thought I was too young to understand or unable to accept their answers.
Questions cannot help us if we hesitate to ask them, or if we evade the answers. We wonder about diverse issues in life, and so, we always search for solutions. Do you search for clarification? Are you hesitant to look for answers for fear of what you may learn? Do you believe that asking another person something is a form of attack on them? How often have you asked an honest question and been treated as though the answer was none of your affair? Do you find yourself wanting to ask a question and hold back, because of doubt? We wonder about something each day, but it seems the inquiries come in and right back out going unsettled.
I Leave You with Something to Consider
Questions begin with questioning words. “I get to go to grandma’s house this week?” Statements like this are dubious.
A thought: Have you ever asked a youngster if their room is clean? The child strolls away to complete the task. This is an example of someone evading a yes or no inquiry. Are you looking for action or for a reply? Why did you ask, and was it a passive–aggressive approach (manipulation)? Do you behave this way at times when someone asks a simple question?