In an earlier post “We Are All Unique – There is No Comparison”, I looked at the cause and effect of comparing ourselves to others. The aim of that post was to offer something to consider. I offered why I think making comparisons is harmful. In that post, I provided a tip and at the end of this post, I have included a couple more. I hope this added input will be of some use to you.
The dictionary depicts a comparison as finding likeness and similarities. There are three degrees of comparison: positive, comparative and superlative, an example of this is good, better, best. We have mastered the obvious using comparison most of our lives, and we have learned through this notice. Clearly, we need to practice this skill if we are going to keep on making practical choices.
Comparing is essential; we cannot do without it, and we learn to utilize this skill at an early age. The skill to compare is a simple part of us that can add complications to our lives when we make personal comparisons. In addition, comparing past to our present or perceived future can complicate life.
Comparison when used to conclude how we measure up can leave us feeling bad about others and ourselves. Even likening our past to present or desired future can set us back on our success, because it takes us out of the moment. In the end, we need to recognize when we are making unhealthy comparisons.
Many have found that counting our blessings and looking for the good natures in other people help us. Gratitude is a major factor in deterring the ill effects of comparison. When you focus on what you have, and what you want, what someone else is doing or has, is something that you admire more than envy. In addition, this focus helps you find your own admirable traits.
One of the tools I use to help me avoid making unhealthy comparisons is stopping thinking so much, about what other people should or should not do. Letting go of our preconceived notions or comparing our values to others, helps us in many ways. I try to keep in mind that we are all unique. Each person grew up with distinct values and cultural differences. Learning about other cultures and religions can help you too.