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More Tips and Information on Comparison

June 19, 2010

In an earlier post “We Are All Unique – There is No Comparison”, I looked at the cause and effect of comparing ourselves to others. The aim of that post was to offer something to consider. I offered why I think making comparisons is harmful. In that post, I provided a tip and at the end of this post, I have included a couple more. I hope this added input will be of some use to you.

The dictionary depicts a comparison as finding likeness and similarities. There are three degrees of comparison: positive, comparative and superlative, an example of this is good, better, best. We have mastered the obvious using comparison most of our lives, and we have learned through this notice. Clearly, we need to practice this skill if we are going to keep on making practical choices.

Comparing is essential; we cannot do without it, and we learn to utilize this skill at an early age. The skill to compare is a simple part of us that can add complications to our lives when we make personal comparisons. In addition, comparing past to our present or perceived future can complicate life.

Comparison when used to conclude how we measure up can leave us feeling bad about others and ourselves. Even likening our past to present or desired future can set us back on our success, because it takes us out of the moment. In the end, we need to recognize when we are making unhealthy comparisons.

Many have found that counting our blessings and looking for the good natures in other people help us. Gratitude is a major factor in deterring the ill effects of comparison. When you focus on what you have, and what you want, what someone else is doing or has, is something that you admire more than envy. In addition, this focus helps you find your own admirable traits.

One of the tools I use to help me avoid making unhealthy comparisons is stopping thinking so much, about what other people should or should not do. Letting go of our preconceived notions or comparing our values to others, helps us in many ways. I try to keep in mind that we are all unique. Each person grew up with distinct values and cultural differences. Learning about other cultures and religions can help you too.

  

4 Comments to “More Tips and Information on Comparison”

  1. Dia says:

    Talk about unhealthy comparisons, one of the worst things we can also do is compare ourselves to other people who have accomplished more than us. What usually happens when someone compares him/herself with someone who has more or has accomplished more in life is usually this person will feel less accomplished and will look at what he doesn’t have yet. We have to be very careful when we compare ourselves to others. Thanks for sharing Sandra

    .-= Dia´s last blog ..5 Ways to stay energetic throughout the day =-.

    • Sandra says:

      Hi Dia,

      I think it is equally common for us to compare ourselves to other people on the other side. Say, for example, that you have kids who behave well in stores, and you see a child who misbehaves. If you think, “Man, I am glad my kids don’t act like that!” “At least my kids are good in the store.” This is a parallel that is focused on your success. We frequently find fault with others, to boost up our qualities through the use of comparison. This is unhealthy as well because we are labeling and judging another person, and it causes us to feel bad. I believe it is equally common for us to compare ourselves to people who are less successful. We fail to recognize the harm in comparison on this aspect. In addition, society promotes this action, by telling us to think of others who are less fortunate (recognize your blessings).

  2. Adil Syed says:

    We must appreciate what ever we have. Actually comparison creates feeling of jealousy, because we tend to focus on those things which another person has but we don’t have.

    .-= Adil Syed´s last blog ..Best Time Management Quotes =-.

  3. Sandra: I couldn’t agree more. Unhealthy comparisons really get us no where. I thought what you said was really important and a good thing to always remember … we all definitely are unique and once we learn to appreciate our differences, we will understand that there is no need for comparison. Everyone brings something valuable and different.

    .-= Sibyl – alternaview´s last blog ..How to Really Experience the Current Moment =-.

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