There are so many ideas in the world today designed to help us reach our full potential. There are suggestions on, positive thinking, minimal living, finding our purpose, forgiveness, living in the moment and more complex ideas like The Law of Attraction. Each of the mentioned ideas above has merit and value, maybe you can think of more. They are ideas that can help us improve our overall self-esteem and use our minds effectively. These ideas have certain tools or techniques presented with them to maximize the impact on your life. The Law of Attraction is almost a holistic approach, containing many of them.
What I have noticed about each idea is that they all have polar opposites. Let us look at positive thinking first. I used to be a negative thinker, and sometimes I still catch myself being less than optimistic. On occasion, I catch myself thinking critically, or hear myself carrying on a negative dialog, but hey who doesn’t. Becoming a positive thinker and seeing the goodness in the world and the people in my life, have changed my outlook substantially. So where is the polar opposite you may wonder?
Sometimes I catch myself being overly positive and almost denying reality. Like if, someone is cruel to me, and I think it is okay. I may convince myself that he or she is teaching me something important. It is all right for another person to be himself or herself. It is nice to accept that someone may be having a hard time dealing with his or her life. At what point is it okay to allow another to treat you poorly just because you can see the positive benefits? I mean, we can start out as a doormat (pathetic) and end up a doormat (a-pathetic). Either way we may start out being negative as a defense and end up utilizing positivity to protect ourselves from harsh realities.
Think of Self-Improvement Ideas as a Guideline
I think that many of the ideas, including The Law of Attraction, are simply guidelines. These ideas though if taken too far out of balance become a way of life. Minimal living is a wonderful exercise to help you gain perspective, but overindulged can cause you to lose perspective as well. The old expression that too much of anything is bad for us seems to apply to all the self-improvement ideas available today. We need the negative things and the positive if we are going to maintain and live a balanced life. We need to let, go and hang on at the same time. This sounds contradicting to me even as I write it, but it is relevant.
If we take most of these ideas to extremes, we may end up losing the best parts of ourselves. This is why I think that the best self-help tool we can utilize is learning how to be assertive, confident and straightforward. To me improving our lives boils down to good old fashioned honesty, integrity and sincerity. Enhancing our communication skills and developing inner trust that we can place in other people works. Accepting ourselves helps us be more tolerant of other people and builds self-respect. All the ideas work, but if we take them out of context, they can stifle our growth.