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This Too Shall Pass – As If it Never Happened

April 21, 2010

NatureHave you ever noticed that after you do something, it is as if it never happened? You may ponder and rethink doing something many times before you finally begin. The mental list of pros and cons builds in your mind with each excuse that you create. Even the legitimate reasons for jumping in and getting started cannot seem to motivate you. The negative thinking about what you will go through can seem, severe, and irritating.

We wanted to put a foundation underneath our house for years. For various reasons, some actual excuses, we procrastinated, for quite some time. While we did the work, most of it ourselves, we lived in a tent camper! Six weeks living in this camper and using one of those green portable toilets seemed intolerable. We managed to get what we wanted and save a ton of money. However, before we started the project and during the process, it seemed like an ongoing struggle.

Thinking of all the inconvenience and the work really made the notion of tackling the task difficult. The very day that we put the tent camper away, it was as if it never happened! Today, it is as if the foundation has always been in place. Now when I have a task, especially if I am resistant, I tell myself, “After I am finished it will be as if it never happened.”

Contemplating something as concluded helps us. If we can understand, once things get finished, it will be as if the event never occurred, we can relax. If we consider that when our automobile is out of the shop, it will be as if it constantly ran correctly, then we let go. Often, things that we disturb ourselves with are outside of our control. However, we can select our thoughts, and rest assured that this too shall pass.

Sandra Hendricks, EzineArticles.com Expert AuthorIf you are able to think of things that you are resistant to, in this fashion, you suffer less stress and look, forward to better times. The great thing about this idea is that it helps you understand how powerful your mind is. You can use this idea to help visualize effectively. Mostly, what stands in the way of effective visualization is thinking about what you don’t want. If you utilize this method, you can let go of the negative and focus on the positive.

We can construct a patio and imagine it has always been there. Therefore, we can imagine it done before hand.

  

2 Comments to “This Too Shall Pass – As If it Never Happened”

  1. Russ Hamel says:

    Sandra,

    Unfortunately I’ve noticed this phenomenon works on ‘good’ stuff, too. Take vacations for example. You plan, and scrimp, and save; you go and have a great time… then you’re home wondering if you really did all those fun things.

    For me, the key seems to be in the reaction – the remembering. My wife and I still talk fondly about our honeymoon, now almost two years ago. It’s the fuel for future vacations, not so much for WHERE we went, but for how we FELT being together at that time. Honeymoons are magical that way and we want to remember those moments as much as possible.

    As for life’s little stumbling blocks (OK, and the occasional boulder) it’s helpful to quickly turn the challenge into a victory, much like Dora, “We did it, we DID it!”

    You see, some folks will hold on to the bitterness of those times and whether they realize it or not, that feeling of bitterness attracts more of which to be bitter. Their lives become a never-ending cycle of challenges and bitterness.

    In a recent article, I talked about how to turn rants into regales, in other words if you’re going to look back someday and laugh at your trials and tribulations, why not learn how to do it sooner… like today. Keep the lesson and forget the beating. Make your version one of a Super-Hero overcoming all odds as opposed to rehashing your role as ‘The Victim’.

    “This too shall pass”. True enough. But you always get to keep the memories. So the question becomes, how do you choose to remember? How do those memories make you feel?

    All the best from Toronto,
    Russ
    .-= Russ Hamel´s last blog ..Three Ways to Turn Your Rants into Regales =-.

    • Sandra says:

      Hey Russ,

      I understand what you mean about the good things in life passing and holding onto the memories. Fortunately, we do have a capacity to remember, and glance back on the wonderful events in our lives. Events like our children growing up, the pets we raised, and the troubles we have overcome – our most treasured of times. Often, though our past can stand in our way as well as a perceived future. Living in the present benefits us, enabling us to enjoy life to the fullest.