Do you know many people who make use of sarcasm routinely? Sarcasm is quick to offend. We can try ignoring it, but this is ultimately not an answer. What I have observed about people who routinely use sarcasm is that they are easily upset and quick to defend themselves. We all use sarcasm on occasion, in an attempt to be witty perhaps. Mainly, it is to cover vulnerabilities and anger or to reveal irritations.
We use sarcasm when we are upset and reluctant to express ourselves assertively. I know a person who wanted her neighbor to stop setting her sprinkler next to her car. Therefore, one day when she met her outside, she told the woman how she felt. “I know my car is small, but watering it cannot make it grow.” Apparently, the woman got the point, because she ceased watering my friend’s car.
Sarcasm is a form of manipulation that is cutting and hurtful, so the person using it is always prepared. What are their famous comebacks in case they offend? “I was just kidding, man, lighten up!” “Can’t you take a joke?” “You shouldn’t take life so seriously.” I have noticed though that people, who use sarcasm as a usual form of contact, take life very seriously! In fact, a person who directs sarcasm gets highly agitated when other people direct it toward them. I suppose they recognize it abruptly.
Without the use of sarcasm, would life become dull and meaningless? I watched an episode of “The Big Bang Theory” last week that made me chuckle. Sheldon knocked uninvited on the door of a renowned person. The fellow answered the door and said something sarcastic. Something to the effect of, “Do you think you can just come to my house and knock on my door? While you’re here why don’t you come in and watch the game with me?”
Penny, the girl next door told the man that Sheldon doesn’t understand sarcasm, and turned to flee. The man then showed his true anger and frustration, by saying he would give him something he would understand. Sheldon of course was already sitting on the couch ready to watch the game! I suppose that we need to recognize sarcasm when we hear it and understand the forewarning of upcoming consequences. However, sometimes we just need to laugh.
When we use sarcasm routinely, we fail to say what we mean and mean what we say. This type of communication can disrupt our lives and leave us feeling alone. There is very little satisfaction in having what we want if we have used sarcasm to achieve. The neighbor woman I mentioned in the second paragraph was unfriendly after she stopped watering my friend’s car. I suppose she felt humiliated and talked down to, by her neighbor.